12 June, 2009

From where the sun now stands, I will fight.

Chief Joseph actually said, "I will fight no more forever," but he'd done his share of fighting, seen horrors enough already.

I see the same kinds of injustice in my world today. Today, I woke up in a world full of the same kinds of hate and injustice Chief Joseph saw - the good of the many obliterated to placate the will of the few in power. He said:

"There need be no trouble. Treat all men alike. Give them all the same law. Give them all an even chance to live and grow. All men were made by the same Great Spirit Chief. They are all brothers. The earth is the mother of all people, and all people should have equal rights upon it.”


And how right he was! Why is this such a difficult concept to hammer into the heads of those who insist that their w
arped understanding of a religious text, or some ill-conceived directive from someone they find to be charismatic tells them that it is not only right, but just to deny basic rights to our brothers?

Why is an innocent ma
n going to die because the "justice" system is failing him? Why is his life not worth the trouble and cost to take what's broken and fix it? How dare anybody put a monetary price on human life and happiness? Who are these people who would rather take a life than take extra time and do extra work or - dare I say - admit they were wrong? A life, people, a human life.


Why am I allowed to get married to the right guy if such a man and I ever chose to do so, while my friends who have been together for over a decade and raised children together may not, simply because they're both women? I patently refuse to accept that legal recognition of the family unit which already exists in their household can have anything to do with what goes on in the home of the judgmental, bigoted married couples who say that gay marriage is a blight upon the institution.

Guess what! I've been married. Guess what else! I have gay friends who would get married if they could. Guess another thing! If the marriage they've been living since before I ever met my ex-husband had ever been legally recognized, it would have had absolutely no effe
ct on my decision to get married, how long I stayed married, the problems that cropped up in said marriage, or the resulting end of it. How could it?

I want to just grab each and every one of those people who talk about the "sanctity of marriage," shake them, and scream EVERYTHING IS NOT ABOUT YOU! How self-centered do you have to be to honestly believe that you personally are threatened by someone else getting married, whomever they may be? I am sick and tired of seeing relationships freely entered into by consenting, healthy, non-related adults who love each other, lumped in with child abuse, pornography, and incest.

Honestly, can we just stop pretending that Fred Phelps's First Amendment right to free speech, which allows him spew hate and filth via every medium he comes across is more important, more sacrosanct than his victims' right to be treated with respect and dignity at the very least?

My heart is sick and sad, but I will fight. Forever. News days like this remind me why.


3 comments:

Samantha Stoner said...

"The sanctity of marriage." When did that start meaning ANYTHING other than the sacred communion between two people and their vow to be faithful to each other forever? When did it come to mean anything other than two people choosing to stand up before their friends and their families and make life long commitments to each other? Why does it have to mean anything beyond that? How does the two people being of the same gender render that sanctity somehow null and void--or worse! I really just don't get it.

Thank you for continuing to fight. Knowing that one more person is fighting makes it much easier to continue. Much easier to raise my voice for just a minute longer and shout it just a little louder. Because with the two of us, maybe two more will hear and join in.

Heather said...

You know, it's really funny that you ask that question! You know why it's especially shocking to hear this from Obama, as a person of color? The whole reason we HAVE marriage licenses in the first place was so the racist mo-fo's in charge then could keep blacks from marrying!

Why not just take away marriage benefits for all and give everyone single or attached the same consideration and financial benefits? Oh wait, that might anger the smugmarrieds and we can't have that!

Melissa said...

I love this blog post. You have the perfect words for this - especially the part about anyone else's marriage having no effect on your own. Amen.

Living in the South, it's amazing to hear the comments that come from people. When I mention to someone I know that I'm hanging out with my friends, who happen to be lesbians, and the response is "ewww" you know something is WRONG with the attitudes of the church-going God-fearing Christians who have nothing better to say than "ew" in response to a loving couple who has a happy life together.

I need to move to NYC.